Dear Cheeky Chms my boyfirend wants me to have an abortion does it hurt?
So many sites on the net about abortions, but you want to know the real answers to the most important questions that can have an effect on you for many years to come should you be in a possition to abort your baby (end your pregnancy).here are the most relevant ones to look at before going ahead as planned to abort your baby.An abortion is permanent it kills the growing baby.Babies of 12 weeks gestation in the womb is fully formed with arms, legs, a brain, lips, nose fingers, a tongue it is not a blob of jelly as some friends may tell you.
In the UK Although the legal limit for abortion is 24 weeks.What happens exactly in an abortion?
Medical abortion
Used from nine to 20 weeks of pregnancy. The first drug you take, called mifepristone, blocks the production of hormones that allow the pregnancy to continue. A couple of days later, you have a second appointment where you take another drug called prostaglandin, which causes the lining of the uterus (womb) to break down. This brings on bleeding about four to six hours later. You may have to stay at the clinic while this happens.
Manual suction aspiration
Used up to 10 weeks of pregnancy. This procedure involves inserting a tube into the uterus through the vagina and removing the pregnancy using suction. It’s usually carried out under local anaesthetic, which is injected into the cervix. Most women go home a few hours later. Vacuum suction aspiration is similar, but instead of using a manual suction technique it uses an electric pump. Vacuum suction aspiration can be used up to 15 weeks into the pregnancy.
D&E (dilation and evacuation)
Used after 15 weeks of pregnancy. Surgical dilation and evacuation is when the cervix is gently stretched and dilated to allow special forceps, as well as suction, to remove the pregnancy. It usually takes between 10 and 20 minutes to perform under general anaesthetic (that means you’ll be asleep while it happens). If there are no complications afterwards, you can usually go home on the same day.
Does it hurt?
You will have some period-type pain or discomfort. The later the abortion, the more painful it might be. You will be advised about appropriate painkillers.
With suction abortions, the injection to numb the cervix can sometimes be painful. The procedure itself can be a little uncomfortable.
After any abortion, you could experience some bleeding for up to 14 days, as well as period-type pains.
Like many in her situation, she has looked on the internet to find out exactly what the operation involves. “It doesn’t look very nice, but it’s what has to be done,” she says, “so I’m not really that bothered about it.”
If she’d asked the surgeon, scrubbing up in the operating theatre, he would have given her his standard, brief answer: “The terminology I’d use would be that the foetus is removed and that the foetus dies as a result of that process,” says Dr John Spencer, who is the senior clinical director for Marie Stopes and one of only a handful of doctors in the country who perform abortions right up to the legal limit of 24 weeks.
“Women hardly ever ask for any more details.”
To illustrate what happens, Dr Spencer grips his thumb between the surgical forceps and squeezes gently. “Those parts are the skull and then the spine and pelvis, and in fact they are crushed…”
The operation on the 16-year-old is over in 12 minutes. The bowl with what they call “the products of conception” is quickly wheeled out of the theatre, covered in yellow plastic
Does the abortion Hurt?
“Yes it hurts because dilating the cervix. or the neck of the womb, has to be done causing cramping pain. Usually medication is given to help relieve this but the patient is usually awake. A local anesthetic is injected into the cervix to numb it up. This helps some.”
Is the baby human or just a “glob of cells?”
“The baby is human from the moment of conception. When the one cell it is made of has characteristic 46 chromosomes of the human species, it is unique from that moment. Eighteen days after conception your baby’s heart is already beating, probably pumping a different blood type than yours. This is almost at the time you would miss your menstrual period.”
“Ten days after conception the baby has planted him or herself in the wall of the uterus and stops your menstrual flow.”
Here are 3 descreet links that looks at the 3 abortions at different stages of pregnancy ( do not be alarmed no blood or baby parts)
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=G8K7fpRYt4c
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WSCkyW2dke8
“Forty days after conception (doctors) have recorded brain waves. If you touch a little baby’s nose at that point it will draw its head back, so there is definitely some sensation at that time. You can see little arm buds showing up than.”
“By eight weeks we can even hear the baby’s heart beat with an ultrasound stethoscope. In abortions done after that time you can see identifiable body parts.”
Does the baby feel pain during an abortion?
” likely yes. From six weeks the baby has sensation around its face and mouth. At seven weeks the baby can feel a needle stick and draw back. Even at that time if you put a little probe or instrument in the baby’s hand it will curl up its hand around it, so it feels things.” Several recent studies in Britain and the U.S. support this position.
Will I feel guilty after the abortion?
“Many people do, although they may not face that for a number of years. While the first reaction is relief, almost everyone who had an abortion has to deal with some degree of guilt before they are healed of their abortion experience.” Anger. The woman will often express her guilt and shame through anger at herself and others involved in the abortion decision such as her parents, friends, doctor, the baby’s father and men in general. She may also be angry with her children or future children, which often results in abuse. In the first 10 years after legalization of abortion, child abuse increased over 500%. Studies indicate that child abuse is more frequent among mothers who previously had an abortion. This is due to the guilt and depression hindering the mother’s ability to bond with her children.
Anxiety. Anxiety is defined as an unpleasant emotional and physical state of apprehension. Post-abortive women with anxiety may experience any of the following: tension (inability to relax, irritability, etc.), physical responses (dizziness, pounding heart, upset stomach, headache, etc.), worry about the future, disturbed sleep.
The conflict between a woman’s moral standards and her decision to abort generates much of this anxiety. Very often, she will not relate her anxiety to a past abortion, and yet she will unconsciously begin to avoid anything having to do with babies. She may make excuses for not attending a baby shower, skip the baby aisle at the grocery store and so forth.
Broken relationships. Abortions performed with the hope of saving a relationship seldom succeed. studies notes that almost every relationship between single people broke up either before or after the abortion.
Depression and sense of loss. These “post-abortion blues” generally fade within a few months, but prolonged, deep depression is not uncommon. Depression is a mood filled with sadness, guilt and feelings of hopelessness. Some women report feeling completely immobilized by their emotional state and unable to get interested in anyone or anything since the abortion. Uncontrollable crying which can be daily and may continue for years: sometimes lasting for hours or days at a time. Those who report a sense of loss describe a number of related reactions such as the inability to look at other babies, or pregnant mothers, or a jealousy of mothers. Many consciously seek a replacement pregnancy.
Psychological “numbing”. A person who has experienced a highly painful loss will sometimes develop an instinct to avoid future situations that might lead them into serious pain. Many post-abortive women maintain a secret vow that they will never again allow themselves to be put in such a vulnerable position. As a result, without consciously thinking about what they are doing, they may work hard to keep their emotions on a flat level, experiencing neither highs nor lows. Not only does this flatness of emotional experience affect their own outlook, but it greatly hampers their ability to form and maintain close relationships.
Suicide. Feelings of rejection, low self-esteem, guilt and depression are all ingredients for suicide. According to one study, women who have had abortions are nine times more likely to attempt suicide than women in the general population.
Other psychological problems which may develop include re-experiencing the abortion, survival guilt, development of eating disorders, and alcohol and drug abuse. Sleep problems include nightmares concerning the abortion, often involving the “return” of the aborted child. It is not uncommon for a woman to become obsessed with the “would have been” birth date and imagining the child as old as she would have been if born.
Teenagers who have abortions are especially vulnerable to PAS because they are at a critical developmental period of their life. Even though teens are likely to be most deeply affected by abortions, they are also likely to be the least expressive about their doubts and pains. Instead of being encouraged to accept the consequences of her choices, and to mature through the responsibilities of parenthood, she is encouraged to “mature” through infantile destruction.
Guilt. Feelings of guilt are among the most common immediate as well as delayed reactions to abortion. Guilt is a normal reaction that usually surfaces after the woman recognizes that abortion is wrong and that she is responsible for committing her own abortion. Guilt is what we feel when we have violated our own moral code.
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